7 things to do to prepare yourself for Ramadhan at home

This year, the COVID-19 situation will mean that your Ramadhan will most probably be quite different to what it usually is. The mosques are closed, and iftar parties are off. If you are working from home and are in quarantine or social distancing, the only people you will be around are your family members. If the thought of a different kind of Ramadhan has you nervous, here are 7 things you can do to help prepare yourself for Ramadhan at home

1. Purify your heart and set the right intentions

The key to making your Ramadhan a spiritual journey is having sincerity and purity in your heart. Make dua to Allah to help rid our heart of diseases, sins, and that Allah softens your heart to fully embrace the blessed month of Ramadhan

أَللّٰهُمَّ اٰتِ نَفْسِىْ تَقْوَاهَا وَ زَكِّهَا اَنْتَ خَيْرُ مَنْ زَكَّاهَا اَنْتَ وَلِيُّهَا وَ مَوْلَاهَا

“O Allah, grant my soul its piety and purify it, for You are the best to purify it. You are its protector and guardian” (Muslim)

2. Get rid of bad habits

One of the biggest culprits to a meagre Ramadhan is wasting time. We are only given one month to gain the mountain of rewards Allah has offered to us. Delete mindless time wasting apps off your phone. Gradually reduce your screen time whether it’s Netflix/Youtube/Social media etc. Detach yourself from chatting needlessly on Whatsapp groups. Fix your sleep pattern to prepare for longer nights of ibadah.

3. Prepare your mind

When we are fasting, we should become more aware of our actions. Fasting is to refrain from more than just what we consume in our mouth. Start working on your patience; be extra vigilant with your conversations: ensure you are not backbiting, slandering or talking about useless things.

4. Increase and perfect your acts of Ibadah

Before Ramadhan arrives, try to really perfect the acts of ibadah you are currently doing. Pay attention to your wudhu, try and deepen your khushu’ in prayer, make sure your compulsory ibadah is in the best form going into Ramadhan. Try and pray more sunnah prayers as well so your mind and body are ready for the Ramadhan marathon and can hit the ground running instead of wasting the first week or two getting in the groove.

5. Set your Ramadhan goals and start your action plan

When setting Ramadhan goals, try and use the SMART technique. Make your goals Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic, and Time-bound. Try not to set goals that are too big and overwhelming. It is better to start with small realistic goals and be consistent rather than start off big and fade off a week later. Knowing what you want to achieve in the month will help you stay focused.

6. Strengthen your relationship with the Qur’an

In addition to increasing your recitation, try to improve your tajweed. Read the translation and tafseer of a few verses a day and really contemplate on their meaning. Think about how each verse applies to you, and how it fits in with a larger frame of reference, eg: family/community/ummah. Qur’an journaling can help you keep track of your tadabbur/reflections. 

7. Seek knowledge

Arm yourself with as much knowledge about Ramadhan as you can. Find out the virtues of this blessed month and about our Creator. There are so many blessings that can be reaped during this holy month; the more you know about Ramadan the more you can apply, hence multiplying your rewards. The more you learn about Allah, the closer your will feel to His love and to attaining his pleasure.

Insha’Allah, by taking these steps, you will be ready to welcome Ramadhan no matter what the circumstances are.

This post originally appeared on TP Edits

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Tips for working from home with little kids

Due to the Movement Control Order, a lot of us have been subjected to working from home, and for those of us with families, it means working while being surrounded by your kid(s). I have some experience in the area – I usually work from home once a week, and even when I’m at the office I’ve had either Eesa or Hudaa with me on most days. So when our social media manager asked me to share my work from home with kids tips to make into MCO content, I was more than happy to depart my wisdom *cue eyeroll*

Disclaimer – this is just what works for me, and a lot of the time, I don’t even manage to do all these. Sometimes, you just have to forego taking a shower in order to beat that deadline. Or you are so worn out from juggling so many hats that the last thing you want to do is wake up in the wee hours of the morning to get a chunk of work-time. Life goes on.

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Be Flexible

The main thing I can advise people about working from home is to be flexible. You will NOT get a solid 8 hours of work in like you do at the office. There is no 9-5. Of course you will try, but bear in mind that your working hours would more likely be spread out across the whole day and include so many more ‘breaks’ than you had planned. If you are working alone or are pretty independent from other departments in your company, this shouldn’t be much of a problem. However, if your work requires a lot of scheduled meetings/discussions/collaboration with others, it might be a bit harder for you. Tip 2 will address that issue.

Being flexible also means you are able to work from various locations in your house. Ideally, you would work at your dedicated workspace, whether it’s your dining table, or your home office space. But sometimes, your kids require (read: demand) your attention.

Some people may have kids who are older and understand boundaries better, but if you’re like me and have a baby, or a toddler, who have not developed enough self-restraint or comprehension of the phrase “mommy needs to do some work right now”, you will find that being flexible in the location of your workspace allows you to get more work done. Of course, this only works if you have a laptop or if you can work on your mobile phone. If your work is tethered to a PC, planning becomes even more crucial. As you go along, you can (hopefully) train your child to recognise boundaries better.

Have a plan

I find that having a plan for the day helps me arrange my schedule better. And planning doesn’t just include work – now that you’re working from home, it also means planning for meals/cooking, planning for downtime with your kids, and planning for other home-related things like laundry, naptimes, cleaning, etc.

My method is quite loose (remember tip no.1!), and it involves listing down my work goals for the day or my work to-do list. Next, I identify tasks that have time constraints, namely deadlines and meetings/group discussion. Then I can make sure my day is geared towards setting myself up for as much success in achieving the these highlighted tasks.

For example, if I have a conference call scheduled at 1pm, which is when we usually have lunch, I will make sure that the kids are fed and lunch is cleared up earlier, and that I spend at least 20 minutes entertaining the kids so they get their mommy time before I have to hole up in my room. The rest of the day is slipping in pockets of work in between so I can check them off the list.

Additionally, if you get derailed by the many, many breaks you are forced to take, having a plan or to-do list written down will make it easier to pick up where you left off and get right back on track as soon as your situation allows you to, instead of backtracking and wasting time gathering your work mojo.

Get backup

If your spouse is also working from home, then you’re lucky, Alhamdulillah! After listing down your work tasks for the day, I will usually let Shafiq know about any uninterrupted time I might need and vice versa. This allows us to take turns in attending to the kids while we chase that deadline or attend to that meeting.

If you are working at home alone with kids (LDR couples, single mothers, HUGE salute to you!), identify an activity that your child engages most in, and save that activity for when you really need it. And of course, when all else fails, Paw Patrol is hopefully just a click away.

Everything else

While those would be my top three tips, some other tips I find useful are:

  • Getting up earlier than your kids to get solid uninterrupted work time in
  • Try to make sure you get ready for the day – getting ready physically also helps you get into the work mindset. Take a shower and put on something other than your pyjamas. Make yourself a nice mug of coffee just like you would at the office
  • If you find yourself getting distracted by your phone, social media, etc, maybe use a timer or the Pomodoro method to break your work up into smaller chunks. The timer can also help train your kids to know when it’s working time and when you are allowed to take a break.
  • Make time for your kids – there’s only so much time they can leave you alone for. And really invest in that time – enjoy connecting with them and make it quality time. It might just help you destress from work too

Although to me working from home with kids seem like second nature, I hope these tips can give the bewildered and frustrated parent who is new to working from home some tools to make it through these strange times <3

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One-pot creamy paprika chicken pasta

I rarely cook and when I do, it’s usually just throwing things together and hoping for the best. This was one of those recipes that turned out better than I expected!

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If I was to re-make this dish, I’d probably do things a little bit differently, but I had very limited ingredients so this was basically me rummaging through my fridge for whatever I could use. Things I would change:

  • Remove chicken skin
  • Grill chicken to be “healthier”
  • Use parmesan instead of or along with cheddar
  • cooking cream instead of milk
  • fresh parsley instead of dried
  • More heat, if the kids weren’t eating. Some cayenne or chilli flakes would be goooood

I think it turned out delicious nonetheless, although Shafiq modified his to suit his tastebuds better (mayo of course). When he first tasted it he had such a hard time pinning down the hint of lemon. If it was up to me I’d put lemon in almost all my cooking because i love the zing it gives, but Shafiq is NOT a fan haha.

Didn’t have time to document the whole process (also I didn’t think it was going to turn out any good) so this is the only picture I have, and even here you can’t really see anything. Oh well.

One-pot creamy paprika chicken pasta

Serving size: 4pax

Ingredients:
  • Pasta of choice (I used angel hair spaghetti)
  • 2 pcs chicken chop, cut into 1 inch pcs
  • 2 Tbsp paprika powder
  • 1 tbsp garlic powder
  • 1/2 large white onion, chopped
  • 1 carrot, diced
  • 1 cup button mushrooms, sliced
  • 1 cup cherry tomatoes, halved
  •  2 tbsp vegetable oil
  • 1/2 cup chicken stock
  • 1 tsp flour
  • 1.5 cup milk (I used fresh milk)
  • 1/2 cup shredded cheddar or parmesan
  • Chopped parsley (I used dried)
  • squeeze of lemon
  • salt and pepper to taste
Instructions
  1. Cook the pasta as per packet instructions making sure it’s al dente or still slightly firm to the bite.
  2. Drain but keep 2 cups of the pasta water
  3. Marinate the chicken with the paprika powder, garlic powder, salt and pepper
  4. Heat up the oil in a large non-stick pot/skillet
  5. Sauté the chicken til cooked through
  6. Remove chicken from skillet and set aside
  7. Sautee the onions, tomatoes, mushrooms, and carrots in the same skillet until softened
  8. Add in milk and chicken stock
  9. Once the liquid start bubbling, add in the flour slowly, stirring till it is all dissolved/mixed in
  10. Add the cheese and mix thoroughly
  11. If the sauce seems too thick, add in some of the pasta water and season to taste
  12. Add in the cooked chicken pieces and drained pasta, and simmer
  13. Add a squeeze of lemon and mix
  14. Garnish with chopped parsley and serve